Control. I can't speak for everyone, but this is something I deal with. Another transparent moment, earlier this year my oldest daughter and I were having lots of bad moments. It was to the point (okay, this is really transparent), I felt I could not parent her anymore. Perhaps, she needed to live with her dad. I knew it was not the right decision, not because her dad isn't capable but because it would have been an emotional decision. As we know, emotions pass. I knew something had to change because our relationship was being damaged. The Good News Is....I went to therapy. I knew I was dealing with control but as it turns out, control is a defense mechanism. This was an eye opener! I never knew the two were connected. I was projecting my issues on my daughter and naturally she was resistant. My therapist and I determined how to recognize my control and most importantly, what was fueling the control. Being able to pinpoint the source allowed me to address that versus operating in the act of control. Once I put the learned strategies in place, our relationship changed 100% . I was the one that needed a time-out not her. I needed to change my perspective which changed our relationship. As it turns out, she is just a typical 13 year old. Lol.
Therapy is necessary. It is okay to have Jesus and a therapist. I encourage you to talk to a licensed counselor about you. Our mental health is just as important as our physical health.
Have a beautiful day
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